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Chief Dreamer’s Musings…

Ever drive along a road and find yourself wondering why you are heading in the wrong direction?

Typically this is not the way you go regularly, as you are on autopilot thinking about other things. What if you were doing this in other places in your life, whether you realized it or not?

The Miriam-Webster dictionary has a definition for goal, which states, ‘the end towards which effort is directed’. Given that the majority of people set goals, it stands to reason that you should be setting your own direction, right?

The sad fact of the matter is that if you don’t set your direction, someone else will, be it your boss, a partner, a friend – you get the picture. It’s like you may be the one holding on to the wheel, but hey they’ve punched where you’re going in to the satellite navigation.

Before you know it, you’ve spent the best part of your life in a dead end job, doing what other people wanted you to do, unaware that all along you have had choice in the matter.

Most people go through life thinking about all the things they don’t want or want to avoid, and yet glossing it over in terms that they think are positive. Do you know anyone that wants to give up smoking, to drink less, to eat less, etc.?

These people may have thought they have set a direction, but they haven’t. You can’t drive forwards at speed whilst looking through your rear view mirror.

The more we focus on lacking on something, leaving it behind, giving it up, the more we end up being pulled towards it. You see there is nothing to fill the void, nothing to push you forwards, because you have nothing to aim for!

If you’re ‘trying’ to lose weight you should be focused on what you want to be, and how you would be acting if you were your ideal weight.

If you want to stop smoking, and you spend all your time giving up smoking, focusing on the cigarettes, it’s unlikely to work. Perhaps you go for a patch, but then you substitute one problem for another, but not where you want to be!

What’s the lesson here? Set your own direction and focus on that, and you’re get to where you want to quicker than you thought possible.

So be the driver rather than the chauffeur in your life…

At this time of year, for those reading this in the Northern Hemisphere away from the equator, the nights are getting darker sooner, and it is getting colder. The onset of the winter blues like a virus is just around the corner, jumping from one grumpy person to the next.

It doesn’t have to be this way, you can inoculate yourself from the winter blues. Try these things and see which ones work for you:

  1. Avoid reading newspapers and watching those 24 hour news channels, they exist to carry shocking and negative news to keep you coming back for more.
  1. Don’t be drawn into negative conversations with others, the easiest way to do this is not to say anything or respond when people criticize, as if you didn’t even hear it.
  1. Look for the silver lining in any situation, don’t be drawn into the negative, rather say ‘do you know that’s good because…’.  For example, that’s good because it means we’ll do it better next time.
  1. Focus on what you do want, not what you don’t. A great way of doing this is through the use of goal setting, which of course should be written down. These winter months are a great time for planning for the year ahead.
  1. Surround yourself with happy out going people – just as you can catch a negative virus you can catch one that make you super human. How would you act if you felt invincible, how would things be different?

The onset of those winter blues are not inevitable, what would it mean for you if you maintained your bounce this year?

When two architects had a vision for transforming an abandoned railway line, people thought they were crazy. Yet they inspired others to invest into a project, including the likes of Kevin Bacon.

Their vision has transformed the lives of New York, increased values of property around, and become the 2nd biggest cultural attraction in the city. Their dream and their inspiration is the inspiration of others who seek to replicate what they have achieved.

Whilst I’m not saying that you need to transform an abandoned railway line, you can and should follow your dreams.